Parents who split up have to work out the parenting plan that will govern the time the children are with each parent. It should also cover the rules that both parents will have to follow.
It’s up to you and your ex to determine how co-parenting is going to work. This isn’t going to be easy, but knowing that you’re giving your children an environment they can thrive is likely worth the work you’ll have to put in.
#1: Remain respectful
You should always remain respectful when you’re dealing with your ex. This can make the situation much easier to deal with. Additionally, it’s a good model for your children because they’ll know that adults should remain respectful in trying times.
#2: Speak directly to each other
Always speak to your ex instead of trying to pass messages through the children. By speaking directly, you minimize the chance of the message being relayed incorrectly. Children who have to relay messages back and forth to their parents may also have to deal with negative reactions to the information.
#3: Encourage your children
Your children need to know that it’s normal to have a relationship with both parents and both sides of their family. They may feel bad if they have a good time with one parent and not the other. Encourage them to fully embrace life with divorced parents by enjoying both sides.
#4: Reduce the stress of transition days
Transition days can be hard on the children because of the conflicting emotions. They’re happy to see one parent again and sad to have to leave the other. Never try to discuss contentious matters on transition days. Instead, talk to your ex in private when the children aren’t around.
#5: Always put the children first
You must always put the needs of the children first. No decisions should ever be based on what’s easier for you or more difficult for your ex.
All parents who are going through a divorce should ensure they get the parenting plan set up right away. The children’s current needs should be factored into the parenting plan because the plan can be changed as time progresses and those needs change. Working with someone who’s familiar with these matters is crucial because they can help you to come up with creative solutions to issues that might creep up during the split.